“Education without values, as useful as it is, seems rather to make man a more clever devil.” - C.S. Lewis
At The Stony Brook School, we pursue academic excellence, admission to prestigious colleges and universities, and preparation for meaningful and profitable careers. Our chief concern, however, is for the moral, intellectual, and spiritual growth of our students. Our curriculum and pedagogy, our residential life practices, and our mentoring and coaching aim at the development of good character. Without character, achievements are empty and meaningless. Our motto “Character Before Career” articulates a principle at the heart of our School identity, a principle that sets us apart from other schools of our caliber.
Chief among the virtues we aim to encourage are:
We actively strive for the well-being of others for their own sakes, whether they are lovable or not. We are motivated to love others by the love God shows us in sending Jesus as a sacrifice for our sins.
We have a confident expectation of ultimate good, grounded in God’s promises to us. This hope encourages us to never cease doing good, even when doing so is difficult or unpopular.
We actively trust in God, who gives us abundant life in Christ. Our faith gives us knowledge of ultimate truths that outstrip our limited rational capacities.
We deliberate well about the right course of action and act accordingly, applying our knowledge and skill in service of what is true, good, and beautiful.
We treat all creatures with proper respect, being sad and angry when their moral worth is violated and joyful at victories over injustice.
We confidently overcome and endure threats to our own well-being and the well-being of those we love. Courage requires not that we be fearless but rather that even in our fear we persist in doing what is right.
We have properly ordered desires for the finite goods of this life, exercising moderation so that we can achieve higher goods. In a world driven by appetite, we strive to be the sorts of people who love what God loves and hold with an open hand that which will not ultimately satisfy.
“It makes no small difference, then, whether we form habits of one kind or of another from our very youth; it makes a very great difference, or rather all the difference” - Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics II.1